1. Take better control of your half of your relationship.
By this I mean reducing any frustrating or hurtful behaviours coming from you. Yes â€“ there are no perfect relationships out there. But you donâ€™t have to have a bad relationship to have a better one. Relationships researcher, Dr John Gottman, found that there needs to be at least five times more of the good occurring in your relationship than the not-so-good parts. The good news is that if you change, it is very hard for your partner to not change as well. Often, you have to reduce the not-so-good interactions before you can get more of the positive relating occurring. There are a number of free articles on my Web site that
can help you with this if you need it.